DAYSTAR ON EMOTIONAL TSUNAMIS

 DAYSTAR ON EMOTIONAL TSUNAMIS

Why many people will still have unplanned emotional or sexual affairs with their ex-es, even after marriage.

In Matthew 5:25-27 Jesus provided the solution, 

       “Make peace (come to terms, agree, admit) with your adversary (MISTAKES) QUICKLY , while you are on the way with him, lest your adversary (EXPERIENCES) deliver you to the JUDGE, the judge hand you over to the OFFICER, and you be thrown into PRISON. Assuredly, I say to you, YOU WILL BY NO MEANS GET OUT OF THERE till you have paid the last penny. “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit ADULTERY (or today's fornication).’

This conversation of making peace with your adversary is metaphorical of coming to terms with whatever wrongs might have happened to you : could be a conflicted relationship, a sexual escapade or a scandal — here : don't try to fix yourself mentally, nor should you deny it happened, rather, only deny that thing power over you by moving on, thus denying it the power from imprisoning you.

Listen, you might have withdrawn from a toxic relationship but the memories won't just go away, you have to come to terms with it quickly, lest it takes you into a prison of your emotions, a place of no return, you might heal but the scars will never go away. So walk away quickly before you're handed over to unreachable (eternal and ever-lasting) depths of soulish turmoil. 

Ecclesiastes 3:11, ISV proves positive this reality, 

    “He made everything appropriate in its time. He also placed eternity (unending contemplations) within them —yet, no person can fully comprehend what God is doing from beginning to end.”

My counsel to you is this : 

At this point, and the way you're feeling, you'll want to misbehave sexually for closure. It's a slippery ground, and you have to look out for yourself too. 

Withdraw gradually, take measures .. apply strategies like delayed replies 12hrs, then to 1day, the 2days. The other party will surely get the signal. Ignore frequent calls, talking once every 4days has proven to be effective (don't call, the other should, only text), don't stay too long on phone, maximum of 20 minutes is okay for a healthy and an effective withdrawal.

It'll be challenging but you can do it. Make peace with the fact that you don't have a mutual future together, and deal with it early. If you play around, that emotion will only take you further to : 

1. the JUDGE (the phase of emotional tsunami), 

2. then to the OFFICER (a deeper level of emotional connection, obsessing and unrestrained complications),

3. then to JAIL ... 

And this turning point is where married people still return to having affairs with their ex because they're in a prison of complex ties, a prison of their emotions. They didn't sign off the ticket for closure at the very beginning. My dear, withdraw and pull out quickly, lest you birth the next level of your complications. 

Now pay rapt attention to how emphatic Jesus put it :

   “YOU WILL BY NO MEANS GET OUT OF JAIL (— THAT FINAL PRISON-PHASE CONSTANTLY THREATENED AND AROUSED BY EMOTIONAL TSUNAMIS)” 

My dear, the passage of time over unresolved emotions will only hand you over to complexities and complications beyond your reach of control, it's a depth no one should attempt, remember that! 

Regards, 

𝒟✩𝓎𝓈𝓉𝒶𝓇 𝒥𝒞𝐻𝑀