THE CHARM OF A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN (PART 2)

 THE CHARM OF A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN (PART 2)

The Onset Of Pornography From The Bible

𝒟𝒶𝓎𝓈𝓉𝒶𝓇 𝒥𝒞𝐻𝑀

PART II

Overlooking these past few years, I have come to the firm conclusion and resolve without an iota of doubt, to which I will on a multiple count, ascertain that “What you spend time with will define and determine the direction you go” : be it the influence of alcohol, toxic friends or Pornography. The intoxicating effect of these things change the course of a man's life forever, unless there's a drastic change for a detour from the influence of God's Word

In Proverbs 31:3-6 |BBE, we're informed of the sound counsel of a caring parent to her young and influential son, King Lemuel, 

     “DO NOT GIVE YOUR STRENGTH (sperm, semen, glued attention and liveliness) TO WOMEN, or your ways to that which is the destruction of kings. It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to take wine, or for rulers to say, Where is strong drink? (INTOXICATING INFLUENCES LIKE THE MEDIA), For fear that through drinking they may come to have no respect for the law, WRONGLY JUDGING (IN IMPORTANT DECISIONS) the cause of those who are in TROUBLE. Give strong drink to him who is near to destruction, and wine to him whose soul is bitter” 

Almost similar to Proverbs 7:25, from The Passion Translation (TPT), 

     “CONTROL YOUR SEXUAL URGES and guard your hearts from lust. DON'T LET YOUR PASSIONS GET OUT OF HAND and DON'T LOCK YOUR EYES ONTO A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN. Why would you want to even get close to temptation and seduction, TO HAVE AN AFFAIR with her?” 

Why would you want to even get close to temptation, why would you even watch it! Yes, you know what I mean. 

The phrase “DON'T LOCK YOUR EYES ONTO A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN” is very insightful, it teaches us the build up of desire, stating clearly the building blocks of what illicits unplanned affairs — I have often wondered why a young man would use his beloveds picture as his lock screen, especially pictures that constantly remind him of sensual appetites, or a lady using seductive pictures of her beloved on her screen. In as much as I would not have any personal issues against this in marriage, I would not personally encourage it in a relationship, particularly when it involves the unmarried. 

Locking your eyes onto a beautiful woman or a handsome man is the onset of Pornography — and it doesn't just build desire but a thirsty one called lust, to which very few are able to withstand for long. Which is why there's the need to always have a balance in your relationship, don't be overly entertaining, unrestrained and loose in the flesh though you have to bond in many ways in the flesh — the goal and focus of two persons in a relationship should not be to explore each other sexually (if they've not been married legally), but rather to explore the love of God for them through His Word. 

A wonderful Man Of God once voiced out a concern to another minister of the gospel during an interview, and these were His words, “Pastor, in my church, we have quite a paradox of event in what bothers us. We encourage the young brethren to stay away from intimate relationships and sex, while on the other hand, we encourage and beg the married folks to have sex often because their work schedules wouldn't allow that flexibility”.

Listen, I was startled when I heard that, because it dawned on me what was happening to our young generation — satan deceives them into defiling their bodies with sex and wild immoral living, hiding themselves under the cover of wit, destroying their self worth with the illicit. There I understood what the Bible meant by “stolen waters are so sweet and bread (sex) eaten (enjoyed) in secret, until one is caught”. 

The Message Bible Translation of Proverbs 9:17–18 puts the verse in a more relatable fashion, 

      “Stolen sweets are so sweet, stolen kisses so much better!” Sooner or later SOMEONE'S GOING TO GET HURT ; a promiscuous woman is a narrow grave, a gaping grave—death (the power of bondage and guilt) is waiting just around the corner.”  

My dear, you're not losing anything good if you're waiting until marriage before sex, it is the right thing to do even if this generation doesn't see it trendy, God commends you. From what experienced married couples have shared with me over the years, you'd actually get burdened by sex as a responsibility in marriage because it's a responsibility of pleasure — “it's a lifelong journey where you explore all about each other, so why waste away the suspense you could have kept for that special person”, they added. 

Conclusively, I discovered sex in a godly marriage is so amazing you'd discover you need no form of filthy accessories like Pornography and other modes of self gratification ("self pleasures like masturbation", or the use of modern day sex toys") to "spice" that exciting ministry God gave you both, to serve each other unconditionally, (a service of love to each other, just as Christ loved the Church unconditionally). 

Honestly, I cannot even imagine these wonderful couples of faith, Abraham and Sarah, Adam and Eve or Mary and Joseph watching Pornography to stir up their sexual gonads for the sport of pleasure. No way! — Jesus chose us out of the world, separating us from their way of doing things. We are different. If you believe God created you both, trust that He's also given you the wisdom to enjoy each other to the fullest in the context of marriage. 

One day, a young gentlemen walked up to me and said, “Sir, I have this issue I've never been able to voice out, (though this wouldn't be the first time I'd hear of such struggles amongst young and vibrant Christians) — he continued, I'd often fumble myself, thus with the flesh of his mast (an euphemism) — and it's happened for so long, I can hardly control my sexual desires and outflows anymore in the presence of a woman, and that leads me back into the cycle of Pornography and masturbation. I hate it and that hinders me peace mentally, even in the work of ministry and in my service towards the Lord Jesus Christ”... 

He further on mentioned to me some possible health risks he's facing and how that could affect him with dissatisfied sex in the future. I prayed with him and I know the power of God's word will change his life forever. 

       — I decided to share this, to warn you on Christ's behalf and with a tone of love, that this right here is the kind of bondage satan seeks to wrap around your neck to choke peace out of you. Resist him, do not negotiate! If it persists, talk to your Pastor about it, seek help quickly. 

  The Passion Translation of, Proverbs 7:25 recounts, 

     Control your sexual urges and guard your hearts from lust. DON'T LET YOUR (SEXUAL) PASSIONS GET OUT OF HAND and don’t lock your eyes onto a beautiful woman (BY WAY OF PORNOGRAPHY). Why would you want to even get close to temptation and seduction, TO HAVE AN AFFAIR WITH HER ?

Desires get out of hand when they're fed constantly through your eyes, which are the windows to your soul (seat of sexual desires). Eventually, you'll be faced with having TO HAVE AN AFFAIR just like the Bible says, if you excuse all the danger zones explained in the scriptures.

I remember one of such days, where tempting thoughts went through my mind as a vibrant Christian, to and fro they flashed at jet speed. In the heat of the moment and as a way of saying no to the pressure mounting up in my soul, I shouted the word of God in my room as the pictures of possible events flashed through my imagination, I did not want to get engaged with it. I did not want to hurt the Holy Spirit and the body He gave me. I remember shouting, but they were with no loud sounds, “Help me Holy Spirit, Help me, please help me”. Immediately, that rush of emotional turn-on turned off suddenly and there I learnt to trust and depend on the Holy Spirit in all things as my helper, even the things that seem insignificant, little did I know He was sent to assist me at every level. Wow.

Remember the phrase “I did not want to get engaged with it” — this reminds me of the biblical phrase “the time of Jacobs trouble” — I knew I would mess up if I didn't flee that youthful lust just like the Bible said to do. If I had negotiated, the story would have been sad and wounding. I knew the flesh wouldn't want to back down, but I also knew it wouldn't mind throwing me under the bus of guilt if I was ever to be found wanting. I had a will, and that was what the Holy Spirit partnered with to help me at that moment of trouble. He's also right where you are, helping you in all things, Praise God!

One other thing that helped me and still does, is this, 

    “The more I remembered the words of my Pastor, the stronger I became in the face of temptations and afflictions. The more I remembered his words, the more Goliath felt threatened before me, and soon enough, the walls of strong and desperate desires sunk to it's knees through the foundations of his words. My goodness! Where would I be without God's voice to me, the man of God, Rev. John C. Hutchison. This is why I cherish my Pastor so much, so very much. Bible says they watch over your soul (thus they control your emotions and strong desires). 

My dear, irrespective of what the issue may be, never give up, fight that thing, resist the devil, flee his mind games, and remember, that as you fight and resist the hold of darkness, the power of seduction and perversion is broken over your emotions — even now, proclaim the name of Jesus over that struggle and never see yourself struggling ever again. The name of Jesus changes everything, believe this. Declare right now “In the Name of the Lord Jesus Christ, I rebuke every affliction of temptations and fleshy yieldings, I command them out of my soul, I declare liberty right now, and freedom from all forms of sensual bondages. I am free now and forevermore”. Hallelujah! 

Now let's read Hebrews 13:17 from these four concluding versions explaining why the words of counsel from your Pastor and shepherd is so important, 

— EasyEnglish recounts “Obey your leaders. Do what they tell you. THEY CONTINUE TO WATCH OVER YOUR LIVES ON GOD’S BEHALF. And they will have to explain to God how they have done that work. So, if you obey them, they will be happy with their work. Do not make them sad, because that would not help you”.

— ATM renders it “Obey your leaders and submit to them, for THEY WATCH OVER YOUR SOULS AS THOSE WHO MUST GIVE AN ACCOUNT. To this end, allow them to lead with joy and not with grief, for that would be of no advantage to you” 

— ISV further breaks it down in this wise “CONTINUE TO FOLLOW and be submissive to YOUR LEADERS, since THEY ARE WATCHING OVER YOUR SOULS as those who will have to give a word of explanation. By doing this, you will be letting them carry out their duties joyfully, and not with grief, for that would be harmful for you”.

— Finally AFV renders it “Follow your leaders, and be submissive, because THEY ARE LOOKING OUT FOR YOUR SPIRITUAL WELL-BEING, as those who must be ready to give an account to God in order that they may do this with joy, and not with groaning because that would be unprofitable for you”. 

Remember the words of your Pastor because he watches over your soul, he inspects the borders of your life through the the ministry of the Holy Ghost, and as He speaks the words of Jesus to you in counsel and guidance, whether directly or indirectly, keep those words in your heart and diligently act on it, I always do, So should you, Wow!